Fabulous advice in last Sunday’s Observer:
Wife discovers husband is looking at SM porn on the internet. She is disgusted, and he refuses to give up his interests.
Mariella Frostrup tells wife to get over herself; if that’s what turns him on, it’s not going to go away. She should think herself lucky that, after years of marriage, they have the chance to spice up their sex life. And inevitably: if you can’t beat them, join them.
I only question the assumption that wife might be able to get a new pair of shoes out of it, which is made on the grounds that if husband is into spanking porn, the wife will be required to do the spanking.
If not, you can always compromise by giving him a good slap every time you stumble on his pornography. That way you’ll both derive a little pleasure.
… unless he swings the other way, in which case the poor woman is more likely to end up over his knee.